The Sweet Used-To-Be (17)

[gForce]

Oh, I love it. The Jets are gonna get their kicks, toniiight!

[kat727]

Drive safely and have a wonderful weekend with your daughter. She will come around. I am sure her father's happiness will begin to mean more to her soon.

kat

[gForce]

Thanks, kat, I hope you are right. It is what I keep telling myself and hoping for. It isn't easy for either W and I to deal with D14's negative feelings towards our R. It was one of the big topics during C yesterday. The other being XOM. The good part of it is that we are communicating better about these issues rather than withdrawing and stewing.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

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Glad you guys are talking things out. D14 will come around eventually, especially when she sees the differences in your W and you when you are together. What was their relationship like before?

Fun fun fun going on for me. Maybe H had an epiphany.

SMW

[lodo]

Hey guy,

So when are you going to bring them all out west? You have a guide friend, you know ....

lodo

[GFI]

The other being XOM. The good part of it is that we are communicating better about these issues rather than withdrawing and stewing.

Hi gForce - dealing with this must be tough - you are doing s incredibly well if you are managing to to act as you are...I hope the same for me one day. Your ability to do this is admirable and will contribute significantly to your recovery I should think.

Do you ever find yourself tackling this outside of C or do you save it for those sessions?

KBO! - GFI

[gForce]

lodo, I'm still dreaming of a nice trip to the rockies (with bikes). Stay tuned.

GFI - we talk a lot about this outside of C. To W's credit, she tries to be as open as possible about her R with XOM even when it is clear she doesn't really want to. But I try not to push her too hard or lay on the guilt - I had plenty to do with setting the stage for W to even consider an A and separation. There is plenty of work for us both. The most important thing right now is for us to focus on each other right now and make our M a priority in our lives again. I try my best to do that, and as long as she does as well, and continues to be consistent about it -- it makes it easier for me to forgive and heal. Hopefully I can earn the same from her.

[lodo]

okay - i'll hold my breath! The first photos i put on FB are of a colorado bike trip i did last summer - take a look, that could be you (of course, you could look and say, no way in he11!)

[gForce]

Nice weekend. The people who ran the summer theater program D14 did this year took our a bunch of the kids (and me) out to see the Broadway musical "Spring Awakenings". Good show, and the kids got to have a Q&A with some of the cast afterwards - many of whom were teenagers also. Very cool. Our plans to see the Mets got rained out, and IMAX Batman was sold out. We did get a lot of time to hang out. Unfortunately, D14 was acting a little cool towards me at first, but by the end of the weekend was a lot better.

W has been a little on the depressed side and acting kind of funny lately. She says it is just fluctuations in her mood and not because of anything in particular. I'm trying my best to listen and support, not try to "fix" things. Though I am not suspicious of her, I must admit that being away for the weekend stirred up some memories since W used to take advantage of my weekends away to hook up with XOM. Her B (twin) and neice came over the weekend and helped finish some work in a downstairs room that needed to be done.

[kat727]

I saw that you are not on fb anymore. Did we do something? I know you don't post nearly as often but I am still concerned for you. Drop a line to let me know what's going on.

kat