Hi Kelly...no judgment from me...I have had same sex relationships in the past (long term, not just a fling).
Personally, I am sorry to say, that if I were you, I would run. Its easier to cut your losses earlier than later. But of course, I can only say that because I'm not in love with her. Being that you ARE in love with her, your choice here will be quite a dilemma. I'm sorry you find yourself here. As the rest of us know, why can't we all just be matched up with the one we love??
I'm glad you opened up and posted. If you read some of the posts here, you'll probably see that there is no easy way out, that to recover a SS relationship takes the following things:
*Both partners have to agree to give it 100% effort
*It will take a whole lot of time, possibly a year or more, of consistent effort
*You will likely have to join into counseling together or separately or both
Please stick around, read lots of posts on this section of the forum, and give us as much more of your story as you feel appropriate. The more background the better.
For instance, do you have any reason to believe that your partner has some sexual hang-ups, versus just being LD? Any history of abuse, etc? Those issues are usually important to this topic.
Usually there is not much activity at this board right away...it can take a few days to get some responses...I myself won't be back around until Monday...so hang in there and keep reading but don't give up if you don't get a lot of responses right away.
I doubt anyone is going to judge you, they all seem very open and wonderful around here!
