SAVE YOUR BREATH IF YOU ARE GOING TO JUDGE. I AM 100% COMFORTABLE WITH WHO I AM.
I know Michelle (and her team) counsel same sex couples as Dottie did some coaching for me many years back. Of course it is difficult writing this post amongst all the traditional "marrieds" but my heart is bleeding out and I have no where else to go.
My partner and I have not been together terribly long and sex, when we've had it, has been off the charts. She is 47, I am 45. It became more and more infrequent (though initially my interest and openness about sex was something she said she loved and had missed in previous relationships). We broke up once because she felt pressured, though we continued to see each other as friends.
In early May we resumed romantic relationship and had sex more frequently (still not as routine as I'd like which is weekly vs. every 3-4 weeks and usually initiated by me). Now she says she has lost her sex drive completely due to perimenopause and just went on Premarin.
Alas, I don't know how to tell her that Premarin doesn't have testosterone and thus is unlikely to do anything. She has cut me off completely again, though swearing she wants me to hang in there.
I'm dying....trying to be sensitive but I am a HD sensual woman and there is no outlet for this.
I need a conversation with SOMEONE. Much of what I've read says that if your sex drives are terribly out of whack RUN bc it is unlikely to get better, ever. Does everyone else agree?
