If she wears them , she is i believe more receptive to you. Might be a guage for you to check.
When I am angry or feeling strong I take them off.
Symbolic as they were through marriage, they remain symbolic still.
Today I am fuming, i am so angry, I could scream. Reason:
Last night H had the oppotunity to stay at home and spend preciuos time with our baby ( 16 Daughter ). He does not spend much time with kids as they are either living away from home or out with friends, except our D. He choose instead to play Poker at a house belonging to some new friends he has made.
He has enrolled in so many acivites and fills up his day that there is not a lot of time left over. I believe she is missing him and I am seeing that in school results. choice of friends etc etc.
I have alerted him to the problem and he agrees he needs to be more active with her. BUT when something else like poker comes up she does not enter his head.
This brings me to my problem. If i go out and do new stuff , she is alone at home. I just cant do this.
H lives with his mother at the moment as we clear some debt which will enable him to find his own place ( which I hate the thought of ). I think he thinks that once he gets his own place he will be able to have her then.
Today he has asked in a round about way if I would go to a rugby game with his family. I am not sure if he is asking because he feels he has to ( his family think this is all my fault, so he looks good making effort) and all his family will be with him. Then we are going to a friends party. Our D will be with us up to the party.
I could scream but I wont. i also struggling with the book. I cant find relevance to trying to get your marriage back when he does not live with me.
I want him to wake up one morning and realise his huge mistake !!!!!!!!!
