I haven't read all of your thread, but your title jumped out to me. My H moved in with OW also, he barely knew her. I do think that accelerated the end of their relationship.
My H's OW was also the complete opposite of me and a total trainwreck. I don't understand that part other than maybe she made him feel needed and I didn't. Who knows. After reading thread after thread it does seem that people "affair down". I guess a woman who has it all together wouldn't date a married man.
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Just wondering... my H had pessimistic tendencies. He just seemed like nothing really made him happy. He had happy and funny moments but he never had a general sense of happiness or joy. I know everyone had down moments, so that's not what I mean. I just mean overall.
This sounds just like my H. He did have happy moments....which were few and far between and I longed for him to be like that all the time. In general, he was always pessimistic. He was always grasping for things to make him happy. They were usually material things...cars, clothes, tv, computer, etc. Just anything new to give him that temporary high. Sadly, I guess OW was just something new to him that gave him that high.
Hang in there, things do get better. I had some really dark times and seriously didn't know if I was going to make it. You will make it through this no matter the outcome.
