Hi Dom R, I respectfully disagree with you on that. Without understanding the history b/t her and her friend, it is real easy to assume that they are sleeping together or are together. She has known the guy for about 20 years now. She is unable to afford an apartment or house on her own. She feels that the only way she can give our daughter a good place to live and a good school district is to buy a house with her best friend. While it is true that she could fall in love with him in future or perhaps is having thoughts about it - I highly doubt she is sleeping with him right now. She use to always tell me that she saw him as brother.
In the end of the day, if he truly makes her happy - and she can experience the joy of being loved and loving someone through him - then I will support her 100%. I would turn this world upside down if that meant she will be happy.
That said, while I do want to be reconciled with my ex more than anything - my ultimate goal here is for her to be happy - for her to love and be loved. That might mean that she finds that without me. But I have spent a good portion of my life being selfish and only thinking about myself. I love my ex more than anything in the world and I hope that one day she will feel the same.
But I do appreciate the words of caution given to me. This journey is tough, full of questions and uncertainty. It would definitely be easier to count my loses and move on. But have to do everything I can to fight for our marriage and our family.
