Hi Lee - I've followed your sitch for a while don't think I've posted though. You mentioned 'baby stuff' - are you guys expecting? If you are I may have missed it in one of your other threads. If not be very careful of bringing a little person into your sitch. I'm sure you already know that but I've had friends who (wrongly) thought having children would fix their problems. It didn't and now they have kids who will grow up in a broken home. I'm sure you don't need anyone to tell you but I just see your desire for physical intimacy and her (possible) desire for children as a recipe for a family. I know from my sitch that splitting up and leaving children behind is a very very painful thing. I wouldn't totally reject the children idea but would try to get the idea across that the R should be stronger first. Just my .02 for what it is worth. Wishing you and your W the best!