OK...just journaling...updating, whatever. Want to make sure Forrest finds my new thread in case he came up with something wonderfully sarcastic and could not post it on the locked thread....knew I should have started a new one before I left last night.
Still not much going on...little tug-o-war in my head. Since the camp trip(just as reference point, 2 weeks ago--was that a turning point?)my wife has not been out much, we have been home together most times, just being a little more normal, whatever that means.
Still a wee bit too much drinking going on, but quite a few of those "home alone" nights...cooking dinner together, listening to music and chatting...the other night out in the yard with a nice fire.
The tug-o-war?? Still that problem I have pulling myself away when I know she is home with no plans. I either suggest we do something, which she normally accepts, or just stay around with her and hang out...seems the only time I have it easy trying to GAL is when she is GAL...have to work on that more. Especially if she is seeing things from a slightly different perspective.
Even if we were not in the current sitch, I know she would enjoy some time to just be alone with her thoughts and relax, as we all should have. I would not even have to leave the house...still plenty to do around there that would keep me busy and out of her sight.
But anyway....she sort of invited me out last night. She had dinner plans with an old friend of ours..bridesmaid at our wedding. They stay in touch but rarely see each other, so that was good for her. She is a sweetheart and a good friend to both of us for a long time. Her marriage is not a happy one and by my wife's description, her husband could be described as me at my worst, x10.
Funny...as my wife has told me of their sitch, I often wondered what she thought and if, or how she compared it to ours, and her feelings about me. Her friend has told her that she has no immediate plans to leave her H and it is more for financial reasons than anything else.
They stopped at the house after dinner and I was just sitting around relaxing. I mentioned that I was stranded because I had let my SIL take the car while she was in town.....wife said "well, put some pants on and come have a drink with us". I told them I was not looking for an invite or intrude on their night out, but they both insisted, which was cool, so I went.
Later I told my wife the same thing...was not looking to be asked to go or intrude, and she said I wanted you to come along, I felt sorry for you sitting home all alone in your pj's and laughed.
We had a nice night...played some pool, had some drinks, ran into some friends and I got to catch up with our friend that she went to dinner with. We stayed out after by ourselves and chatted, got home too late, went to bed and ML....and we have been texting back and forth all day about nothing....her making first contact and keeping it going all day so far.
Tonight we are supposed to go to dinner with SIL before she flies out on Saturday, and Saturday afternoon a coworker of mine is getting married. We were planning on going late as we both have to work, but that may still be up in the air.
She wants to make snacks and watch the football game on Sunday, which still cracks me up. I really have no interest and she is sensing that so I am going to sit with her and watch, listen and pay attention....take an interest, follow and learn right along with her this season.
Please guys, I know....not normal...just not a foot/base ball sport fan, never have been. My interests run more to mechanical things and cars...racing, etc., but she has really taken an interest and if she'll let me I am going to get into it right along with her.
Couple more quick notes....the "new best friend"...don't hear much about her lately. The last time she was out with her was last week after I camped. I know they text and talk all the time and very curious why things have cooled. That could change any time, so I don't dwell on it, but she really is not someone that I would like to see my wife get any closer to. Maybe my wife is seeing the light on her own.
Also, don't remember if I mentioned it or not, but I am planning another camping weekend in October and was talking to my D about it, and seems W is interested in taking an extra day off from work and going with me.
