I still have my down days too FG. Especially when I think of finances and how better off we could be as a family if h would stop paying elsewhere, but I just try to let that go. It's not my choice.

I am in better spirits though now that my h is responding to my efforts.

You have to be conistent FG and this could take months and months. You can't one day be nice and then the next time wanting to R talk or bring up finances or whatever. It doesn't work that way.

You have to just be consistent and path that way home! Your h has to be able to see himself living with you as h and w before he will come home.

C is a huge step and let your h know that you support his efforts.

You need consistency, patience, and reasurrance FG. Pray for that!


Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"