I still have my down days too FG. Especially when I think of finances and how better off we could be as a family if h would stop paying elsewhere, but I just try to let that go. It's not my choice.
I am in better spirits though now that my h is responding to my efforts.
You have to be conistent FG and this could take months and months. You can't one day be nice and then the next time wanting to R talk or bring up finances or whatever. It doesn't work that way.
You have to just be consistent and path that way home! Your h has to be able to see himself living with you as h and w before he will come home.
C is a huge step and let your h know that you support his efforts.
You need consistency, patience, and reasurrance FG. Pray for that!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"