5 weeks remain til next chapter starts

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i agree- you cant stop him from feeling guilty- but dont do anything to make him feel more guilty. that would have ,made my H run away as fast as possible.

you are doing an amazing job with all your interactions. you stay positive, take nothing personally and make him right! that si the way to DB!!

as for me and my H- we were in stage 1 for a loooong time- i would say more than half of our sep. then it just ramps up and the stages go a little aftser...you see that friendship stage is really on the way to reconciling..so stage one is very important to go through slowly...

Jody reminded me that although H was venting ad spewing his negativity in stage one- i was there too because i was learning how to hear all of his stuff without reacting.

it is a time to heal. then you can create a new friendship, then romance, etc.

My H and i are in romance and almost to reconciling...he still hasnt come home yet and he still hasnt said ILY. He also hasnt terminated his lease on his apt.

so this is a long process...i think the main things are PATIENCE and taking care of YOU!

you are really doing great!