good morning to all, I guess we were all having sleepless nights. My H rolled in at 3:30 am, totally drunk. Then he proceeded to talk till about 5 am. How his girls will hate him, he is a jerk, wants to be all alone, wants to quit work, wants to work on a cruise ship??? Welcome to my world. I am at work, he is at home. I just actively listened, well as much as I could at 4 am. In all of the mumbo jumbo, he is leaving and needs to take care of himself. I told him I pray for him everyday, not to come home but for peace. He broke down with that. First here is the link to Oprah's book guest on cheating. I have downloaded it. A friend sent to me this morning.
Twinhope - do not beat yourself up. It is a new day for all - We all have days like that. We are human. I still find myself trying to manipulate and fix. the divorce busting counselor kept telling me walk away from anything to do about the R or D. If my H asks me to lunch don't go unless someone else goes with you. When you go home and he wants to talk, go out. I know this can't last forever but it always gives you more time instead of feeding into his insanity. Because like us they change their minds every minute because they do not know what they want. As for the 21 OW, she sounds very immature and to put all that stuff up on my space about M man, not smart. Run off her Myspace when you go see atty. Will help you in your case. T2L...love the line "good stuff you had me laughing on that one", I will have to coin your phrase in my house. Yes, H got the apt, avail 10/1. So I will have a big house open for parties with my DB posse. You are all invited! beach down the street. That will be a whole new meaning to a 180! Also will look into the book suggestions. I got myself a mindless fiction book from the library. Need to decompress from some of my stress. I would sign up for the million man/woman march. The idea is brilliant. Texas is a state that has fault divorce including adultery, and if I have to use it I will especially with all that we have at stake. JGrind...your kids. My heart goes out to you. With them a little older and teenagers it is tough. I read that D is harder on boys than girls, so keep an eye on S14. Need to suggest strongly to H that OW CANNOT be around S14 till further counseling or adjustment. They cannot force our kids to accept their bimbos. It does not make it right for mistakes by them. I also agree that they need that routine during the week staying at home. If H wants more time, let him come to your house, help with homework etc, and make yourself scarce. Leave the house, go get a coffee and let him work out the issues with the kids and see how it is. Let H be a father without interference. The kids will survive. Hurricane Ike is moving more north so we are going to stay home and see what happens. what a week. God bless to all
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
