Ok, get over it "Dr. Love," get down off your high horse, I don't see you a terrific place yet either. I DID NOT tell him to cheat on his wife, nor did I tell him it was OK TO CHEAT, now did I. What I told him was he needs to figure out if his M is able to be saved or if he is done even trying to save it. His WIFE HAS BEEN IN COUNSELING FOR A GOOD LONG TIME AND IT DOESN'T SEEM TO HAVE HELPED HER ONE BIT. At that point, he could figure out if he is ready to start dating. In the meantime, IT DOESN'T HURT to look around i.e. the woman he saw at school.

His wife is in absolutely no position, and this is what it sounds to me from what he has written AND COMPLETELY MY OPINION I better add so I don't "get in trouble" for giving advice to anyone again, to be in any sort of relationship. I FEEL he has done enough to try to help her and now it's time for her to help herself, but she doesn't seem to want to do that. How long exactly is he supposed to wait for her to figure things out?

Like I said, I never told him cheating is ok -- if you want to bring MY MARRIAGE/ISSUES/CHEATING into this whole scenerio, MY HUSBAND CHEATED ON ME WHILE WE WERE MARRIED FOUR DIFFERENT TIMES AND I HAD NO IDEA HE WAS EVEN UNHAPPY -- TOTALLY DIFFERENT SITUATION, thanks.

Last edited by RedHeadWife; 09/12/08 02:44 PM.
Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10