Hi Bridge, I think I can understand your concerns. It wasn't too long ago that H would use things against me as well. I was very very cautious about what I would tell him.

That's also why I don't have him come to IC with me. I end up feeling too vulnerable & exposed.

I'm really glad to hear about your phone boundaries. Good job.

"if you hadn't pushed my buttons, I wouldn't have lost it"

I used to hear garbage like that too. I'd mention that to your C. Make sure your H learns that HE is responsible for his own actions.

Hugs to you !!

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.