Yes, God does have perfect timing and in this situation, time just seems to keep on going and going and going........... and we (or should I say "I") become restless/anxious as I am so worn out and tired.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
After reading the several post on God's perfect timing a thought hit me or maybe God told me, if we knew when God's timing for out sitch was like say it was a week or month away would we then just stop working on ourselves? Would we tell ourselves that we have done enough to finally get our spouse back because we know the clock is finally winding down to the last moments and we are happy that they are home again? Maybe I am just trying to say that if we knew the (WHEN) that we may get lax and not continue to put all the effort God expects us to put into God, ourselves, an our marriage. Maybe the not knowing continues to push us in many ways as God develops or molds us into what he wants US to be and for what he wants us to be as a spouse to our spouse. I think this time also applies to our spouse as he works on them on the other side of our mountain. EVERYONE on here continue to have faith as small as a mustard seed and say to God to move your mountain and throw it into the sea and it will be done. God keeps his word and he will finish what he has started. I know the pain as much as the rest of you. I also get anxious, restless, and discouraged too, but I understand that this all has a purpose. This suffering is part of the molding process, and in the end it is all worth it, time will tell for all of us. We should do our best to stay strong, keep praying, and continue to stand for our marriage. God only expects us to do our best, he knows we will fail part of the time, but to continue to look to HIM.
I read where you were speaking to craig54 and him sending flowers to his W for her B-Day. My W B-Day is this 21st and she has said that SHE LIKES FLOWERS, however I haven't got her flowers to many times or for her B-Day that I can recall. We haven't seen each other or talked really any in about two weeks, not sure what will happen between now and then, but was wondering about the idea of sending her a colorful flower arrangement (no roses) to her work. Also when it gets closer I was going to call her and see about taking her to dinner for her B-Day, I may get shot down, but thought I would try. Would like your thoughts on or anyone else on this flower idea.
sooners, I don't know about the flower idea. I can only suggest to ask the Best Counselor, i.e. God Himself. Pray for guidance. try to see where this idea came about and be sure it's not from you wanting to "help" God along in His plan to restore your M.
Sooners I am NO expert, but when watching the movie "fireproof" it says go all out. Put your heart and soul into it and in the movie a vase of red roses were given by the h.
If I were you I would send a vase of red roses to her work. Now this is just me thinking. How wonderful would that be your w at work and these lovely flowers arrive. I know when I have been at work all the women look around and want to know about the flowers and think you must be married to a wonderful man thinking of you. It would make your w think!
Whatever you decide to do Sooners, have it come from the heart. We can't be afraid to show our love for the other regardless if they are committed or not and we can't be afraid of being hurt. We have already been hurt and we have survived.
You decide!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
...we can't be afraid of being hurt. We have already been hurt and we have survived.
I think I might get this tattooed on my palm...
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
I agree with glam about the flowers. She has a point and I think I would do the same.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I like the flower idea myself. Her favorite color is pink and she is turning 25 so I thought about sending 25 pink roses. I'm not sure if that is to much or if I should do a dozen. Glam and ladies please let me know what you think. Maybe try to look at not based on our sitches but if someone where to do this for you, how would it make you feel? Thats what I would like to know. All I know is that I truly and deeply love my W. In the big picture of things I would do anything I have to do to get her back in my life. Oh yeah, from you ladies point of view do you think red roses would be better then pink? Would red be a more powerful message of love or just go with pink because it is her favorite color?
do one dozen. i have always sent my husband cards for his birthday regardless where he was or who he is with. i do know he keeps many of these things in a bag in the trunk!
oh--do not do red roses, pink or yellow.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
