Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[Trying2live]

Let just reiterate that for all of us Hope3343-I HATE THIS TOO! And yes-Margaritas sound yummy! I know maybe some day if I am able to visit my sister in Abilene we'll schedule a rendezvous for margaritas and the forums invited! Or y'all can come to Cali. We can do Disney Land with the kids.

LOL. So did he get the apartment? I personally think you are doing great. Your really being very confident in front of him. Be sure to find that hobby, dance class or gym thing that you like or out of character for you. Something unexpected. He needs to see you are living your life and doing things he never thought you would do. I think some where in themselves they think oh they'll just sit around and cry and think about me the whole time so I can do what I want. That's why when were gone or doing something new or turn down an invitation and GAL they have to really think if it's really what they want. Be perky cheerful but somewhat unavailable.

To the family of the Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby) :)...I really encourage you guys to check out a few other books. They have been helpful to me and they strictly deal with affairs.

DB deals with relationships with a section on affairs but these 2 books are entirely on Affairs. Don't get me wrong love DB, its just more ammunition for your fight for your marriage and more ammunition is always better. Get one or the other better yet both. It gives a lot of statistics on Affairs. I highly recommend them. Nice weekend read too.

I think one of the best things we can do is educate ourselves (and Pray of course) but it will help us because generally all people are the same that's why it seems in one way or another that our stories are similar. Ok ok here's the names of the books. Really get one of them. I read em both.
In order of Favorites.
1. Surviving An Affair by Dr. Willard Harley
2. Love Must Be Tough by Dr. James Dobson

Marisol,
Yeah Divorce Store-Cheesy Sleezy! Get legal counsel and emotionally seem unmoved by it. They love getting a reaction out of us. They love to engage us. Mine keeps trying to do this and now I just reply, "good stuff really funny you had me laughing on that one." He's taken the marriage I'm not gonna give you more. I'm trying to notice every time he's trying to engage in disagreements. Its hard because it's so easy to get sucked in by defending yourself or kids. Don't do it. It's like they know that they own that little part of our soul so they are gonna yank on it by trying to engage. The classier we are the more they have to live in the pit and conviction of what they have done and not refuting in their minds our responses.

Hey Ya'll ...Wouldn't it be cool to do like a million man/woman march on like D.C except it would be against Affairs in America. I'm so sick of it. Every time I turn around i find out another person is having an affair. It's an epidemic. I hate having more laws because I think there are to many sometimes but I wish every state was an AT FAULT state and we as Betrayed Spouses could sue for damages. Could you imagine having sue the OW/OM and your spouse has to help pay the bill. Talk about think twice. Talk about squashing the little fantasy land. They'd be fighting so fast they would break up. Just a funny thought I had. I'd love to arrange something like that.

How is everyone else?