Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[twinhope]

I screwed up this time. I went against everything DB. My H called me and wanted to talk. He said that we need to discuss some things and it was not a big deal. We just needed to get on the same page. My heart sank thinking that he was going to ask for a D. Well I pushed the question when he rolled out this new financial plan he drew up that only now has him responsible for the child support and the bills we share. I asked him if he wanted a D. He wouldn't answer and I pushed the question and he said yes he wants a D. It broke my heart. I addressed the OW and told him to just be honest. He said that they are both M and that they are going through the same thing and are just real good friends. I told him that even though I know it can be more that she is not the problem and that I was and I wanted a second chance to make things right. I was a very bad girl, months of hard work out the window. He was saying that he didn't know why I never asked him to do anything after he left. He was waiting for me to reach out to him and I pushed him away even after he left.
It was so hard to hear all this stuff and I tried to validate. He said he can't give me what I want because he just doesn't feel it. He thinks I have been sticking it to him financially and with visitation. He is so angry at me. I really feel like it is over. He said that he wants us to be able to be ok with the arrangement now and that maybe that would open up a more pleasant environment to work on things but that was not definate.
I am losing hope he did speak to a lawyer today for a consult and I looked at the OW myspace page and she talks about being in a R now and that her parents really like him. She says that she wants to get married again and wants one child. I wonder if he told her he is fixed. He only wanted our girls and thats it. I wonder if she is more attached to him and is just being a typical 21 year old in lust not love. For crying out loud she is going through a D already. Great start to a R!