Hey, Nut! Glad to hear school is going well. 18 years is a long time and I can understand your thoughts beginning to drift to retirement. Does California have a good retirement plan for teachers?
I just got done reading all of the therapy records that we were provided w/ from my W's C. She didn't go to therapy to get better and find answers. She went to get validated for her feelings and her C has done just that.
W isn't challenged at all by her C. Everything she states is taken as fact and I'm the bad guy in both of their eyes. No wonder she keeps going back to this C and no wonder she hasn't made any progress at all.
W said that I've said "nothing was my fault" which is completely untrue and the texts, e-mails, and depositions prove it. She also said that a friend told her she needs to "forgive me" but W says she can't b/c it would mean she'd lose her fight. Forgive me? It should be the other way around in my book.
In her therapy records, W is also clinging to the idea that I'm asking to spend 50% time w/ D to punish her.
She also claims I told D that I wanted to move into the same apartment complex as they currently live in so I could be closer to D. What??? There is NO WAY I'd want to live in the same complex as her. I told D I needed to move closer so I could see her more often, but I wouldn't move that close. Can you imagine that? I can't. W told her therapist this is just another way for me to try and control her.
Again, I just don't see it getting much better or being any different inside her head any time soon. I'm no longer holding my breath and waiting.
Anyway, it just proves that she's in very deep denial and isn't coming around any time soon. I'm not sure she knows how to let go of all of her anger. It is no longer up to me to try and help her out of her own head. It is no longer my problem.
On another note, W called me tonight at 6:15 to tell me D had an ant bite on her heel and had to wear flip-flops all weekend and that D wanted me to buy some Oreos for her to snack on. Funny how this was so important for me to know. Could it have anything to do w/ the fact I didn't return or react at all to her e-mail from this morning?
Anyway, I didn't say much at all. I kept things to one and two word answers and ended the conversation telling her I'd call back for D around 7:30. I had no problem not talking to her. Usually her voice made me think of her lovingly. It didn't have that impact today.
I also called D around 7:15 to tell her goodnight - as I told W I would do - and there was no answer so I was forced to leave a message. There hasn't been a call back and D is now in bed.
I hate this right now. I will be complete once our situation is settled.
