Ok so I know I am posting a lot today but I got more to say!
We just spent 40 minutes on the phone hashing out our plans. We are going to go to the beach and most likely stay the night Saturday. So that should be a good time. We have only gone on "vacation" once in the two years we have been married and that was our honeymoon! We have always been tight financially and never could afford to go anywhere. Even now we are still pretty low income but a night at the beach never killed anyone!
So Monday I was supposed to go down and watch him play waterpolo but we decided to postpone those plans to a day when I am not working, and also to save on gas since we will already be driving a lot this weekend.
The Tuesday we have our counseling session.
So I will see him Saturday, Sunday, and Tuesday! Not bad.
The phone call went well. No arguing in sight! One thing I am focusing on right now is speaking slowly. That is something my counselor told me to try and focus on doing to avoid conflict and stress. He said that the faster I talk the more my hubby visibly shuts down. Odd huh? I am a fairly high strung, energetic person and sometimes. . .ok a lot of time. . .it shows up in my body language and speech. So I really need to focus on that. I was thinking that on Tuesday night when we were deeply engaged in R talks we were talking "normally" and I am beginning to wonder how much of that was due to the fact that I was speaking slower and thinking about every word before I said it.
