I've been posting elsewhere because of feeling iffy about wanting to continue dealing with W. I'm back on track now and just checking in. You said the ultimate reason for her attitude was:
"Basically she just wanted to tell me that her internet was cut off"
The abusive tone attitude of your W sounds like she is going through internet withdrawals (did you mention earlier she is a OLgamer?) and is having to deal with some harsh realities (bills)she has been avoiding. "
On another note, while you seem to be getting a handle on yourself, the more I read about WAS's, the more I begin to have some compassion for them. Up until lately, I had a lot of anger and did not respect anyone who gives up on a M simply because their 'feelings' have changed.
Though I long ago was taught the value of not being led by my feelings, but learned (not perfectly) to make better choices and therefore have better feelings, not everyone has gotten that message.
Everyone is simply where they are at. Their way of dealing with life may be inadequate, but that inadequate or imperfect way will eventually lead them to suffering and pain. Pain is a teacher, to help us search for a better way.
You W is trying to avoid the pain (the teacher) by the fantasy of gaming. When she couldn't do that anymore, she had less buffer between herself and her reality. That made her irritable.
The bigger point I am trying to make here is that your WAS is probobly in a lot of emotional pain. You may have contributed to her pain as you react to hers (and you can do something about that now), but I really think it is her own inadequate way of dealing with relationships and other stressors in life that make her unhappy.
Just know that she is suffering though. Be empathetic and don't take it personally. And continue to learn and grow so you can be the man who she needs/wants to go through this sometimes difficult, often wonderful life with.
Last edited by native; 09/12/0802:33 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
