What we are saying is we all do that...try to seek happiness with others or things....but, we have learned that's wrong. We are trying to help you. If I could go back, knowing what I know now, there are so many choices along the way that I would change. One, being hanging out with guy "friends" who made me feel attractive and wanted,something I was not feeling at home.
We bombard you because we KNOW, we've been there, we WANT to help you, we care about you....If I didn't give a hoot, you wouldn't get me so darn frustrated!!!
I know that broken feeling. And, that is why I KNOW that going out with the girls that want a relationship with you, single girls....is not a good idea. Going out with other GUY friends, doing stuff that YOU want to do.....that's a good thing.
WE don't reject you. Your wife is because she is so confused right now and making bad choices.
If I could go back, knowing what I know now, there are so many choices along the way that I would change. One, being hanging out with guy "friends" who made me feel attractive and wanted,something I was not feeling at home. 
