Hi T2L, opposites --what is he thinking of. OW sounds like a bar fly and loser. Amazing. Hopefully he will see the light. I know you said he was living with her. It will get old fast. Especially if she is having problems with her kids and still has a son at home. H will probably have to compare the differences between his S and OWs. Today I think my H met up with the Ow but he came home pretty quick. My nickname for her is PP - Plastic Pinata! Maybe the comment I made had an impact on him, maybe not. But right now he is moving out at the end of the month. He is telling D15 in about a week or so. We are going to tell her together, and then he asks me to say that it was because we were growing apart. I said I am also telling her this is not what I want, we need to show our children that we are committed and not quitters. I will not lie to her. He agreed. It is soooo sad. I keep saying why why why. I took yet another long walk on the beach. I feel so alone here. I have no close friends. I take inventory and pray and keep turning this over to God. Next week is my birthday. I am thinking of doing another 180 and having a birthday party here with about 20 work people. Like I am moving on. Maybe if he sees how others see our family and home maybe more of the fog will lift. The amazing thing is he still calls me "Honey" and gives me a kiss/hug most mornings and evenings but when go to bed -- nothing. I feel like I am in a canoe without oars.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
