What was basically said in that writing was what I wanted to get across to you...the hows and whys of seeking happiness. Seeking attention from other ladies will maybe cause you happiness, there will always be things out there that may give you that happiness you seek...but if you are always seeking happiness without consideration of what is morally right, sins will undoubtedly look very inviting to you. It is a sin to look for happiness from other women outside of your marriage. Group outings, etc...yeah yeah....you know you are flirting and they are with you...so the whole "group outings" thing isn't true anymore.
Poor H4H--you are getting jumped on today, but yeah I think we sense you're not listening or rationalizing or whatever! I think another problem with seeking happiness from other women is that it's wrong to look for happiness outside yourself anyway--in other people or material objects or whatever. I used to do that pre-bomb when I wasn't happy instead of focusing on making myself happy I would focus on getting a new house or my H getting a new job, and one thing I have really learned from this experience is that's the wrong way to go about life.
I think you should work on just being happy yourself, plus I also feel that this time before D is good for me to work on healing and getting better and stronger and getting over H so that I will be ready for a new R hopefully when my marriage is over. Sometimes when I hear that song "Damaged" I think that sounds like me. I want to try to work on myself and let time heal my wounds and all that....Karen
