I take this walk VERY cautiously. I know it appears that I keep running my hand over the flame. Perhaps I am.
Youve been there from the beginning for me Pup. I keep thinking I need to do something different, but I keep remembering one of the last things you posted to me.
Only when I see her making a move away from OM and back to the marriage. THEN I'll change what I'm doing.
Correct?
NO, I DON'T think that's correct.
I say to only judge your wayward spouse's intentions by their actions (not their words), and specifically NOT to count their movement away from the OM/OW, but only back toward the marriage. When I hire people, one of the things i try to determine is, "Are they running TOWARD my company, and this position, or are they running AWAY from something?" Similar dynamic.
But I (and DB) also advocates "doing what's working," and "don't do what's NOT working." So I think you've got it backwards. Why would you change what you were doing, if she were moving back towards the marriage, and therefore, by definition, what you'd been doing had been WORKING????
