Advice-Husband moved in with OW(I'm a Newby)

[marisol35]

Hope - THANK YOU so much for that prayer!!! I know he has signed the paperwork today but that doesn't mean its over until I sign or even consent to what he has. I will get a lawyer as soon as I get those papers. I must protect myself and my daughter. I refuse to be taken advantage of any longer.

JGrind - I agree with Hope! Communication must end with OW H. He does not sound stable at all! Then to go to your house when you would not return his calls is a bit unsettling. Your H must deal with this man and make sure you let your H know what he is doing and how it is making you feel.

Twin - My H is doing the exact same thing. He is trying to blame me for my D not talking to him. Last night my MIL took my D to dinner with my H son (they are brother and sister by him). When they are getting ready to leave my H house he shows up with OW. My D was already in the car but she ends up seeing this woman. She gets home and just cries. She is hurt seeing her dad with OW. Then this OW has a dog. This devistates her even more because she begged her dad for years to get a dog and he always said no. Now this OW has a dog and brings it to his house and he has no problem with it. Amazing isn't it? I send him a text this morning telling him about how hurt his D was last night. His response was "stop acting like victims", "its not his dog its her dog", "all we do is assume things without talking to him first". My response had some strong wording but basically told him that she is a victim of his actions, that she is hurt by all this not because he had a dog there but because it was something she wanted and how selfish he was being. All my D wants is for her family to be back together. He told me to stop filling her head with these negative things and I told him I was not doing that. Our D is seeing and having her own thoughts. Not once have I ever influenced her by saying mean or nasty things about him. I have told her the truth the best way that I can. I am encouraging her to talk to him. He is just a completely lost.

Tomorrow I am going with a friend of mine and her husband to pickup the truck from him. I am wondering how that will go.

I went to the first support group meeting yesterday. It was good I was very nervous and didn't say much. It feels like this will be a good thing for me.

Keep GALing everybody!!!!! Pray for yourself and your H's....