H4H, I just think you are playing with fire and you know will eventually get burned. We're in such situations: I could list you a dozen or more reasons why you shouldn't be going out with women and I'm sure you know them too.
You don't consider it a date, but they probably do, and I think that's exactly how our WAS started their As with a rationalization like that-it's not a date, it's just coffee or lunch or whatever. But then you know what it turns into. I also think you're not emotionally ready to date either. You still love your W, and I don't think distracting yourself with another person is a good idea. You know, I do have empathy b/c I started down that path too, had the guy friend that I was going out with to movies and stuff, but I just stopped it completely when I realized what could happen, that I wasn't ready for, and esp. when still married. It would be so easy to distract ourselves like that, but I think you might regret that at some point. Karen
