OW visiting in October

[HOPEFULinCALI]

If you want to try, I'm sure we could figure out a way to do it.

Thanks I am interested to try this. I am going to look into it.

No probs. We all have our weaker moments when we lose faith that things will EVER change. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have fantasized about going over to the OMs house and punching his lights out and threatening him to stay away from her, or dragging my W away from her apartment and making her move back in to our house to keep her away from the OM, but it's all just that- fantasy. I always come back to the reality of the friggin' waiting game because I know enough from reading all the other posts on this board that trying to actually DO any of those things in real life is just going to make the sitch worse, and take things that much longer to work through!

It is a struggle. I wasn't the easiest person to live with. I was very opinionated and outspoken in my M although I didn't realize it at the time. I never meant to be hurtful or controlling. So my 180 is to be just the opposite but I hate getting walked on. For me I had to see that he was done, he wasn't going to wait for me anymore before I came out of the "fog".

You should be really proud of yourself and your efforts for having the tenacity and strength of character to stay with this for a year- good for you! Don't give up! I hope that I can duplicate your stellar efforts.

Thank you. You can absolutely do it! I have told myself a million times I am done. It does get painful. I am a better person for it now though through DB. Hang in there!

About your H trying to escalate his newest interest to a PA- maybe his stash of viagra could be inconveniently "misplaced" at the "wrong" moment?

Ha Ha. I thought of that. I looked for it b/c I saw the delivery slip and know that he picked it up two days ago. I think it is in his car. That will be a hard one to pull off but heck if I don't try.