Hoo boy, HC! Sounds like you talking about dating really floored him, huh? Funny how he can sleep with hundreds of women behind your back, but if you even bring up the possibility of dating he needs to bring you back under his thumb again--talk about one heck of a double standard! LOL
HC, he would need to make so many changes for you to realistically have a marriage with him that I don't think you even need to consider whether you want him back or not right now--can he, is he willing to do the work, get the help he needs to change? For himself, not for you?
Or is this just about trying to keep you from dating?
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb