Well it couldn't hurt but I don't know the first thing about that.
I know the first thing- maybe not the second or third, but I'm making my way...
If you can get the OPs birthdate (date including year, time, place of birth, etc. - not always possible to get everything, I know, but the more info, the better) it's easy enough to get a chart done for free on the internet. One of the places I went to allowed you to put in the birthdates for two individuals, and get a free compatibility chart. (Maybe pie in the sky, but I'm remaining hopeful anyway - the chart drawn up between my W and the OM showed that they were about as compatible as oil and water!) If you're interested, I can pass along the website address. But rather than pin your hopes on that, I think it would be interesting to see what sort of configuration(s) of transits were in your spouse's chart, and compare them to the OWs. I have a THICK book of transits that I could look them up in, and see what jumps out of the mix, if you would like me to pursue it. The only potential problem I see would be if you were uncomfortable with giving out birthdate info on a public site (which I would have a hard time blaming you), but then again, I don't think anybody here would have any REAL way of using that info against you anyway, since we all operate under monikers. If you want to try, I'm sure we could figure out a way to do it.
No probs. We all have our weaker moments when we lose faith that things will EVER change. I can't begin to tell you how many times I have fantasized about going over to the OMs house and punching his lights out and threatening him to stay away from her, or dragging my W away from her apartment and making her move back in to our house to keep her away from the OM, but it's all just that- fantasy. I always come back to the reality of the friggin' waiting game because I know enough from reading all the other posts on this board that trying to actually DO any of those things in real life is just going to make the sitch worse, and take things that much longer to work through!
You should be really proud of yourself and your efforts for having the tenacity and strength of character to stay with this for a year- good for you! Don't give up! I hope that I can duplicate your stellar efforts. I found out about DBing about 3 mos. ago, and have just gotten comfortable enough with getting into doing a full-court press of LRT within the past month or so. Results are really slooooow in coming, since I see my W only once a week, if that. (Depending on whether she decides to go on yet another out-of-town trip over the weekend with the OM or not). But I AM seeing results. The biggest thing I've learned is that sometimes results slide- W takes one step back for every one of my hard-fought-for two steps forward.
About your H trying to escalate his newest interest to a PA- maybe his stash of viagra could be inconveniently "misplaced" at the "wrong" moment?
Keep the faith! -Jimbo
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
