That says how I feel about yesterday in one word, which will go down as a milestone in our SSM recovery.
Setting the stage: the day before yesterday (Tuesday) we went to the counselor's office in the morning and I worked from home the rest of that day. Most of it, anyway. We ended up making love in the afternoon while the kids were still at school, a rare thing for us. Therefore, I didn't expect anything sexual to happen between us for a couple of days or so after that.
Yesterday (Wednesday), while I was away at work (and unbeknownst to me, of course), my wife had the house to herself and spent the day occasionally fantasizing, stimulating herself (but NOT to orgasm), and purposefully building and 'simmering' her level of sexual tension -- all for the purpose of springing it on me later that evening. Purely by coincidence, on my way home I stopped by the corner store and picked up a fresh bouquet of flowers and some candy for her, which I do frequently now, but the timing was great this time around. I came home to a cheerful and affectionate wife and sensed.....something....that I wasn't used to sensing in her in the early evening.
After initial greetings and the daily 'debrief,' at some point later we passed each other in the living room (while the kids were on the other side of the house), I took a chance and grabbed her from behind: firmly planting her in a 'spoon' position, one of my hands on her breasts and the other tilting her head back on my shoulder for a deep kiss. Now, on any other day, if I tried an explicitly sexual move like that while the kids were up and there were things to do, I would have gotten some definite resistance and even resentment (so I have to pick and choose my times carefully). Yesterday, however, she responded wonderfully and sensually from the start. It was fun.
The culmination of all this was, of course, a wonderful time in bed that evening -- I had a significantly more expressive and responsive tigress on my hands than usual, and we had a great time. She continued to push her own envelope in the bedroom as well, to both of our benefits.
So needless to say, I've been glowing today, and my wife has been thanked and complimented profusely for her efforts yesterday. It's a dream come true for me to watch and experience her working hard to bloom sensually and sexually, in a way that she never has enjoyed before. I'm thrilled.
Yesterday was definitely a "two steps forward" day.
-- B.
Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007