You hit the nail on the head that is exactly how it has gone for the past 3 weeks. I think now the hardest part for me is not allowing myself to fall into the void of doubt when I give my mind time to wander. I know he has ended things with her and that she is working on her marriage as well but they do still work together. He has to work hard on not getting defensive during these times. He tends to go with the "I'm working so hard to show you that you can trust me for what we still end up back here", then I have to remind him that what he is doing has gotten us this far but he has to be patient with the doubt times and that he can't push it all under a rug and forget it happened. So far it is working and luckily those days are down to about once a week....and getting less frequent and intense for me.
