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Phoenix, Thank you for that. That sounds good but, I worry that I can't protect myself financially as long as we are still married. She does have a job now but is also still spending. If things keep on like they are we're going to have to stop paying something, Credit loan, car loan or one of the houses. It's a bad sitch w/o the R and M stuff. I want to protect my credit as much as possible. I could probably handle the infidelity better if she wasn't also taking me down with her financially. She actually sugested we look into bankruptcy...WTF, that is something that I never would consider. I think it's irresponsible.

Dan, thanks for that link that was very helpful, I have thought of that very thing.

I guess if I am going to do anything that involves talking with the W I need to figure out a position. If I am going to make a stance I want it to be realistic and plausible. Somehow I don't see her giving up this life so if that's the case "What do I ask for?"

I have a lot to think about now so that is good. My C is refering me to a local Divorce and separation group which should prove interesting. He says it is comprised of both LBS's and WAS's.

I Asked my father today about a L I was thinking about consulting. He refered one and we spoke briefly...he said he hated to see me being treated like a doormat. (Ouch) If my parents think that way...

...I made an appointment to get a consult. I don't want to file. But I think I should know more about what is involved. In any case it lets me "act".

I still don't have a solid course of action.