My fiance and I met just a tad too late in our lives to begin a new family, and although I am so happy to have an empty nest...part of me really feels incomplete for not having his baby. I really wish I could have his baby. There is something inside both of us that wishes we could combine our DNA and send forth into the future a "little us" that will be our legacy ... anyone who is a parent knows this feeling, right?
It wasn't in the cards for us and we have made the decision to just be happy about having grown kids and focus on ourselves.
I do recall one evening though, we were discussing what it would have been like to make a baby together, we were getting even a bit misty about the fact that this reality won't happen for us...
Then I stopped and thought about just how protective he would have been over me if I were big and pregnant with his child...
Just as a refresher of my story, my fiance is VERY protective. To the point that I think most people wouldn't like it and would feel smothered by it. I actually love and enjoy it and encourage it...it is somehow one of my love languages to be possesed by him and for him to show me his strong protectiveness toward me.
So anyway, I had begun imagining what it would be like to be with his child. I could imagine that he literally would not let anyone even speak to me if I were in that condition...(he barely lets anyone speak to me now! hee hee)
So I said it to him outloud, what I had been thinking. I said "wow honey, I bet you would be sooooo much MORE protective of me if I were big with your child".
A look of sudden awareness flashed across his face, as I could see him literally imagining my body big with his child, and himself as my protector.
And after a pause he said "woman, I would protect you like a FIERCE ANIMAL if you were carrying my child"...
After that we were so turned on we ran off and had very crazy wild sex, during which we had lots of talk about him giving me his baby during the act, and we both acted like fierce animals in heat. Whee! (sorry, got off track there....)
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So again, I hope you can gleen the same point from my other story...the point being that, as a woman, these are the MOST seductive, MOST spiritual, MOST sexual, MOST natural feelings I have ever had...the feeling of thinking that, were I carrying his child, he would literally kill any other animal that threatened me. I can't describe what happens within me when I'm thinking about him saying that. It still send chills up my spine to think about it (and it still makes me want to drag him into the bedroom and get his baby from him...in fact, after work that's just what I'm gonna do! well, minus the actual baby...)
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S&A...I hope you can really think about how much power you really do have in your marriage, as the man who has given your wife her children. What does that actually mean to her, her animal self? How does that make her feel when she truly digs down deep inside of herself? I'm talking about actual feelings, not the surface feelings that are meant to protect us....deeper than that, TRUE feelings of an animalistic nature.
Can you think in these terms, and then think of some way you can draw that out of her? Think of the two stories I told you, and see if there is a time and place you can put the properly loaded statement into her mind....watch for opportunities for this...
The basic point of what you want to communciate to her is cave man speak:
Woman - you are mine - you carry my baby - I will protect you to the death - and give you more babies - oooga ooga.
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What do you think? There is more I can/could talk about but does this give you the gist?
