As much as I am a whiner, and as much as I am impatient. There are so many little things that have happened since Retro.
1. Before - I would say something to W and she would just say "Ya" of "oh really" or ok. EVEN if she did not really hear what I said. NOW she says "what?" she wants to hear what I am saying. 2. Before - When she was telling son something about anything she would just include her in the decision. NOW she includes me or in talking it's "You dad and I" 3. At Retro she told them that she HATES writing down stuff for dialogue. Her feeling doesn’t come freely into words. BUT she said she does it. (With a smile I might add) for ME. Because she knows I enjoy it. 4. Before when I wanted to do something (Like Dialogue) and W did not want to I would get upset. NOW I give and take. As much as I want to I can let her have a few days off from it. 5. Before W was Soooo stressed about her unemployment. She would apply to places and never share her feelings. NOW She tells me about her applications and vents her frustrations. 6. Before if I wanted to "go on a date" Wife would say "YOU get the sitter", "YOU make the reservations" and now (we have not gone yet) but she is planning this "date". 7. Before Wife would go shopping and later on I would see something and ask her where she got it or just asks about it. NOW when W finds something "neat" she shares it with me.
There are many more things but they are so small that you take them for granted until you think about them. And Most of the changes are not "thought out" they just kind of happen. Now her starting to eat dinner at the dinner table with me she had to "make herself do it" at first. But now it seems so natural... Yes she / we still have issues we need to work on. Some like our sleeping arraignments we need to work on together. Others like my still not letting go if wanting to slap the OM around I NEED TO WORK ON. She is her self esteem. We can both help each other with these but it boils down to really being our own demon...
Dr LOve
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
