Where I asked if bringing divorce papers to his initial confrontation with his wife would have worked better. I really liked his answer as it gave me some insight into how he was thinking and behaving.
I'm finding a lot of wisdom over there. I'm not sure what things you've done to set boundaries and to tell your wife in no uncertain terms that her behavior is unacceptable.
Anyway, that thread and the one called "Why the lies?" have provided some insight recently. You might give them a read.
