Sounds like you're really getting motivated to redo your room - that's AWESOME, Jeff!!!
Perhaps once you get more into it and finding ways to utilize as well as maximize space, you can share your ideas and what you've done or are planning to do with your W (not seeking her approval, mind you - just sharing what you ARE going to do since it's YOUR room) and ask her if she'd like some help with maximizing space in her room, too. Seems to be an issue in your house.
Example - If you think you want to add more shelving in the closets (or whatever else) and find that it solves the storage issues, suggest doing the same for her in her room. She can take it or leave it.
(((((Jeff)))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
