Worried Life Blues

[karen43]

Took S7 to his first Cub Scouts meeting last night, got assigned to his den. I think he'll do just fine if he can manage to stay focused. (I can't get over how much bigger he is physically that the other boys his age and grade.)

Ok, weird, our lives are kind of the same sometimes. I just took D8 to her first Girl Scouts meeting last night. It's at our church so she knew most of the girls and she said she knew them all by the end as they played a name game. She is thrilled to be doing girl scouts and just wish I had started her sooner!!! I think it will be great for her; lots of social and life skills which will be great!!!

I am so glad you are getting the test done on Thursday!!! I hope that will go well. Did the dr. have any idea what is going on; does he think it is an ulcer or maybe they just wait until the test is done? And yeah, I think your W is worried about you!!! I don't see anything wrong with her helping you out in that kind of situation--I did the same when I had an operation a couple months ago. H was surprisingly kind of back to how he was before the A and was considerate and caring and everything--well for that day!!! Just don't expect it to last! Karen

[LL44]

Ok, nocode, I thought that is what you meant but wasn't sure. I know what you mean. Sometimes, I do silly/clumsy/unattractive things around H and think "Oh well, guess I'm not the better option". Totally know what you mean.

All you can be is all you can be. Don't try to be anything other than that. If W doesn't see all the wonderful qualities about you and see that you obviously would be the better choice...that is very sad.

Good luck. Keep us posted on the tests!!!

[cat03]

You are a great catch ANY day, you dont' need to try very hard

For a while I'd fill my head with such worries "when he sees me doing such/wearing this/ acting like this.. he'll think how much better I am than gf" blah! the woman was a total nutcase for months and yet he still hanged on to her, nothing I was going to do or the way I looked now was going to magically make him think I was a better catch.

Their minds are muddled but made up, if there were in their right minds there wouldnt' be a S and they could see the good things in us.

[karen43]

Their minds are muddled but made up, if there were in their right minds there wouldnt' be a S and they could see the good things in us.

That's so true! I think my H sees me much differently than everyone else (friends & family) see me I've realized. So I choose to believe the 99% of people that see me as a good person, and I think you should too!

[runningoutoftime]

Try to use the sitch an opportunity to work on showing how strong and positive when you can be when having to deal with a challenging situation. Try to be upbeat and positive in spite of what's going on (get some scope jokes lined up).

And then shower some appreciation and compliments (not in a pursuing way, but a nice and friendly way) so she feels good about having helped out.

Think of something she might need and offer to help with that.... and if she says she doesn't need it just say, "Okay, but if you do need help just let me know. It's nice we can help each other out."

This will promote good will, and that's poisitive regardless of what's going on.

[Yoyowife]

NC,
Not much to add, everyone else has said some great things and I ditto them all.

You are a kind wonderful man. I think it's just time to slow down and take care of yourself. Just remember, "Let Go, Let God". I think those are pretty good words to live by.

Hugs, Yoyo

[NoCodeBlues]

Thanks, SG, Lwb, Cat, Karen, Root,

I had to chuckle to myself when I talked to W today -- she told me she would be there to pick me up after the procedure and only if it proved necessary. She said she had talked to some of her co-workers (I can guess which one) who told her that the endoscopy staff will keep me at the facility until I am safe to drive myself. If that is not the case, then I could have her called.

So she's fully reneging on driving me to the location and partially reneging on taking me back to my apartment afterward. Whatever. Par for the course. But I'm not letting it bother me.

Thanks for the well wishes, all.

[runningoutoftime]

Tell her you have someone else to do it (don't tell her who), and just hire a taxi.

[ernest88]

Tell her you have someone else to do it (don't tell her who), and just hire a taxi.

I agree NC..just hire a taxi. if you're too "out of it" to call the taxi back to pick you up..you don't need her to do it.

[NikB]

Hey NC - long time no talk but I just saw your post about the endoscopy and wanted to comment. First good luck!!! I hope everything turns out to be just fine.

I had one a few years back and they gave me some pretty heavy sedation. I was in NO shape to drive for the entire rest of the day, that's for sure. I remember waking up, fighting falling asleep and talking really incoherently for about 45 minutes, then them saying I was OK to go (me thinking umm, really??).. then H helping me to the car, and sleeping the rest of the day.

I don't know if you'll be quite as out of it, but in case you are, it'd really be better if you had a trusted person who could drive you home as opposed to a taxi. Are you sure no friends or coworkers could help out on short notice? Neighbors maybe? People need rides to places all the time... you'll be able to return the favor!

If you do have to go the taxi route, maybe you can tell the facility ahead of time that you need to be pretty wide awake before you can leave for that reason.

((NoCode))

Good luck!