"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
There you go FG. You send h a very nice short e-mail saying h I am so proud of you that you made that appt. I know it wasn't easy making that decision. I appreciate the fact you want to get some help.
Love FG
Something like that FG. This is exactly how my situation started to turn around.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I did send H an email yesterday letting him know I was proud of him. I know that it was something he's been unsure of in the past so it's a great deal to me that he did this. We spoke last night after I picked up D from him and brought her to Rel Ed. He told me he was nervous but it should be fine, and said he'll call me after the appt to let me know how it went. So I feel pretty good about it. The only thought eating at me is I hope he's not lying about this. I hope he's really going and will do so fully, being honest with IC too. AND, I hope IC will tell him his honest opinions and not just say what H would like to hear.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I've asked for MC in the past and was shot down since he doesn't believe C's work (his parents are both pychs and messed him up pretty good!). I'll probably ask about MC again after he's been to IC for a bit.
A girl at work here asked me if I'm at least going out and meeting other men, having sex, etc while H is gone! She said if he can do it then why shouldn't I! Oh, to be young and unfaithful, huh?
Timing is everything FG in regards to approaching h with mc. Those are the words of the world if he's doing it why shouldn't you mentality.
No, because I am standing for my vows I am being faithful to my partner regardless if he is not honoring his vows right now. If you ever have to walk away, then you walk away knowing that you respected your h and m.
It does sound tempting though!
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
