Well everyone congrat me, I did a very effective 180 today. H shows up at my desk today and we go outside, kills me that we work together also. He says he has to do a credit check for apt and put the deposit and first month. Very nicely I tell him well I transferred 1/2 of your part of the savings in your acct yesterday. I think I floored him since I did it on my own. Then he says well I have no new checks for my acct and only use ATM, can I write a check with our other joint bank acct and you can transfer the money in there. I tell him I can't do that electronically, he will have to take out 500 for 3 days and deposit it into that acct. He is used to me doing all of that stuff. He was all flustered, because he has no clue on how to do things. Then he tells me that he talked to D15 about his drinking and how he apologized to her and will try to do better. Then he starts asking about some leadership program my daughter got invited to do that is in New Zealand next summer. I look at him and say we can't do that. He said I can pay half, so I tell him I do not have half to pay. I said don't you understand I am staying in our house but will have no extra money for anything. He is so used to spending money he has no concept of bills. He is in for a rude awakening. Then here is the 180 bomb. He says well I will see how it goes moving and see what happens. So being a DB girl that I am officially, says "well I just hope that if you change your mind that I will still be there for you. I know I told you that I would wait for you but I have been thinking, maybe at that point I will not want you back. I reminded him about a friend I had at work in CT before that was devasted when H left and 6 months later he wanted back and she said sorry too late and I thought she would never do that so people do change." He had on his expensive sunglasses (of course) and I could not see his eyes but he stood there shocked. He did not move, so DBing once again, said well let me go inside -- gotta go I am sure you will figure everything out. When I left him he was still not moving. I really felt good. twin hope your H is getting that reality check that all would be find with the kids...not. My H went to a "how to tell your kids D class last Saturday", H thinks he is now father of the year. How a class is run and how the kids react are 2 different things. He thinks it will be a classbook case. He does not truly know his D15. She is just like him. He is planning on moving out the end of the month. I am taking deep breaths.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
