Daisy! Sounds pretty good to me. I know he doesn't want to be around me right now because there's so much tension. I'm working on getting rid of it. He's leaving a lot up to me and I think if I can change then he will too even if he doesn't want to.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Does this strike anyone odd? maybe I'm over analysing but I feel like a dog who needs a bone right now
The first time we ML in July I told him there were condoms in my night table drawer. I told him they were left over from the last time we ML. And he said (which I find odd) "yeah right how do I know why you have condoms in your drawer, I don't know what you've been up to since I left" (or something verrry similar). Why would he have said that? Does he seriously think I've "been around"?
Another time he told me "I just hope you don't decide to date one of my friends". A week ago I told him one of the guys who works in the bakery was hitting on me and he had a million questions about the sitch such as "what did he say" "when was this" "what did you do" etc. He did NOT look impressed.
I guess he doesn't want anyone else to "have" me even though right now he doesn't want me. ???
I asked him if he got my text today. And he said no which one. So I told him I sent a text that I was going out tomorrow night as usual. He must have gotten that message because he told me before that he gets 99% of the texts that I send. Why is it he didn't get the one about me going out or said he didn't get it. lol
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Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Well Jen, I'm sure Coach will have some answers for you ...... he always does. Remember men & maybe women too want want they can't have....... the chase......
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
I think it's just more clues that he is not done with you. About that same time he was calling you his W. And you certainly wouldn't want you W getting hit on at the bakery!
I am sure he got your text. Unless he gets so many that he could have mass deleted, or something, but that seems unlikely to me. Good for you on following up, when you wanted to be sure. By doing that you get rid of the DAM excuse of "I didn't know"! (Even if he did.)
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Oh he's a DAM alright Hard to admitt you still have some feelings for your xw I guess. That's his problem to deal with right now not mine.
I know he must have gotten the message. I agree Jeff that he prob. would have come back with..."Why didn't you tell me you were going out? I came home with D and you weren't here. This is abusive" etc Seems that it's the same reason that the other time I went out and he swore up and down that he thought I'd be home at 8 and then lied about what time he actually got home with D that night.
Yes he wasn't impressed about the guy in the bakery. I'm sure he thought that "why is R hitting on Jen". R knows that we are split up but I wouldn't be interested in R even if I were unattached.
I just sit and watch right.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Well, I made him laugh so that was nice. He came in to get D and she was in her room. I looked rather annoyed and he says "que paso?" (what's wrong?) and I said "she's still asleep" so he says "you're kidding me" and goes off to her room. He came out and I said "gotcha" and he laughed.
Ok baby step there because for the past week he hasn't even cracked a smile around me and today I got a laugh woohoo!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
I don't know what you've been up to since I left" (or something verrry similar). Why would he have said that? Does he seriously think I've "been around"?
It's a probing question (no pun intended ) to see what you have been up to. He's hoping you reassure him.
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I guess he doesn't want anyone else to "have" me even though right now he doesn't want me. ???
Right. That's why the GAL works. Be Jen international woman of mystery. You can drive this boat if you wanted to. But you keep waiting for him to make a move. Come on skipper plot a course and set sail.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
) to see what you have been up to. He's hoping you reassure him.