I was thinking that maybe you should meet her somewhere that isn't public to give her one more opportunity to claim you "attacked" her, but you have several witnesses hiding where they can see the whole exchange and that can therefore refute it. You might be able to sue her for a false accusation then. Just a thought. If not that, then public, with a witness.
I'm glad you are finally starting to see the light. This IS the woman you married and wanted back in your life. It may seem as though only someone possessed or replaced by an alien could be this way, but you have to accept this is actually the woman you married and are now getting a good look.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer