a) Wayward spouses may get angry -- even LIVID -- in the short run, but in the end will not only forgive you for exposure, many will THANK you (mine did), and almost always will RESPECT you for fighting for the marriage;
b) Paradoxically, most wayward spouses end up angry at the betrayed spouse ANYWAY, and blaming them for the demise of the marriage, including those parts of it that weren't even their fault (some parts usually are, of course). So if they're going to end up angry and blaming you ANYWAY, why not at least do the right thing???
