JGrind - 2:30 am, I was probably tossing and turning waking up every hour as I have done for weeks. My suggestion for OW H - cut off all contact. He sound like a loose cannon. You didn't have to expose your H, he did all the work already. Let your H handle the OW H. He should be the one to contact the police if it gets out of hand. We do not need to rescue our H's. This is one of the reasons they leave us because they perceive us as controlling. As for church your right that is your happy place. If OW H comes there, talk to your pastor about this. OW H is not coming for the Lord but for you to see him and tell your H. If the pastor talks to OW H, he will probably not come back because he is not looking for salvation just attention. It is a tough situation because with this OW H acting out it is making your H want to protect the OW and you are trying to draw him away. This message board is a comfort for me also. Thank you T2L for starting this link. I am setting my next coach busting appt for next week. I agree that I should not go visit the apt etc. Want to run it by the counselor. I read one blog about someone that helped his W move into her place, help set up her utilities, that the OM got mad and then the W defended the H and they ended getting back together, I don't know if I have the strength to go all that out.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
