OW visiting in October

[Jimbo]

Hi Hopeful,

I'm so sorry for your sitch. I'm just beginning the process as a LBS compared to you, so I don't know that my opinion of what to do will help you much. Like everybody else here (including yourself), I've touched on the whole "going crazy" thing along with the intense pain. We really do love our spouses, and want to make things work. But they've got to want it too. No matter how much we want them to wake up and have the scales fall from their eyes, we have to resign ourselves to the fact that it really is their problem. I've thought myself around in circles, and keep coming back to that basic fact. There's no way around it. And so we wait.....and wait.....and wait.......

I've had a tough time understanding how a spouse who has been so loving and caring in a R can develop this "temporary insanity", and just seem to go off the deep end, and then, almost as if they were knocked in the head by an unseen force, come to their senses and come back. Some do it promptly, some do it MUCH later, some not at all. I started asking myself why, and went on a search. What I found may be castles in the air and false hopes, or it may be at least a clue.

Have you considered looking at the transits in their astrological chart? I know that, at least for me so far, what I have found in my Ws chart (which, incidentally, I had recently confirmed in the OPs chart) was a very interesting grouping of transits that seem to explain a LOT of what is going on with my sitch.

Now, I'm not a full-fledged astrologer by any stretch of the imagination, and very much a pragmatist, but I also have an open mind to anything that might potentially help my sitch. And if it could help others, even better!

At least it might give some hope that there actually would be a potential ending date to all of this, or at least a date to step back from and look at the sitch to see if anything has changed for the better.....

Willing to explore?
-Jimbo