M,

I have been doing quite a bit of cyber moving lately. I'll hang out over here for a while and when the big D goes down, I will make my way over there.

I am not sure my advice would have changed anything with your M. It may have helped you detach a little quicker. We all do what we are comfortable with at the time. No need to feel stupid...in retrospect I should have gotten out after I found out my W lied to me about her whereabouts for a week. I would have found John again by now. By the way John is not that far away....he should be back soon.
Yes things went south with my sitch but i have my health, D7, my folks are still healthy, a good circle of friends (which I need to reconnect with)and my apt. is ok......what else do i need...maybe a little human "contact" but that will come.