He was angry to begin with, tried to throw the blame onto me. I just stood up for myself and said I wouldn't take it. I didn't do anything wrong. It was my H and the OW that were lying to both of their spouses. I stood my ground. The negative side is that he blames himself for everything and IMO excuses her part in it. We have had long discussions about this and as with everything else, day by day he justifies her behavior less and less. Right or wrong I think he will be able to put this behind us and quit feeling so guilty (which doesn't help us)as he realizes more and more that it takes two to tango. Yes he could have and should have said no when things went past a professional level he has to take his own accountability there however the same rule applies to her, she was married as well and we have since found out that this isn't her first affair at work.
