Refuse To Lose, Part XI: Clock is Ticking

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Rob,
Gosh, things are getting ugly.. as time goes on, I can see that as Kalni says, she is the one with the problems, she is not a good person and it is not you! I am not a mother but even I know there is NO WAY you would bring a man into the house and sleep with him in full view of a 4 year old, UNLESS you had been dating for a long while and made a concious, reasoned decision to introduce this man to your D becuase you were planning on M him and therefore him being a stepfather. Thats it. Thats the ONLY situation you would do that under. Children need to be protected from this stuff, and do not need to get to know random men, unless you can be pretty certain they're sticking around.

Plus, Grace said "the man who worked in the front office of the apartment complex.".. WTF !!??? Your W is an educated woman isnt she? A teacher or something? WTF is she doing just dating some apartment office guy, that smacks of desperation to me, sorry, but it does.

I#m so sorry for the pain you are going through and the unfair treatment, it must be very hard, like your life is sliding out of your control. I see issues of control and having to accept lack of control in alot of sitches on these boards and that is in where the lesson lies. You of course though, do need to take care of Grace. I wish you luck with your ongoing battle there. I thikn you should arrange mediation... we have it in the UK.. no more of these batting texts back and forth where you and your W say "dont do this" or dont treat Grace like X.. you need to hammer it out like two ADULTS, face to face, with a family mediator to set some ground rules of access and parenting.

Enough is enough Rob, take control, dont reply to those text messages anymore !!!!