I think part of my hubbys problem with his idea of a "low maintenece" marriage is the fact that he has never been around married people. His parents were pretty much divorced before he was born and do not get along. None of his friends have married parents, his mom remarried and divorced his step father when he was younger, his grandma is divroced, aunts and uncles pretty much all divorced. His half sisters have both been married and then divorced and his half brother is the only one I can think of that is still married and has a family but they are not close and they live far away.
So really what am I supposed to expect from someone who has no clue what a marriage even is. To us when we were 19/20 it was we are tired of living long distance and we love each other so let's get married. Lol. My parents and most family members are married so I have a more realistic view of these things.
I am hoping that our individual counseling will help in this area, that maybe the counselor can show him that we do not need to be peaceful 100% of the time to have a good and strong marriage. In fact the occasional argument can be a good thing for necessary changes and overall growth. Of course done the right way. . .aka not the way we do it now.
