I haven't set up my own checking because there isn't enough money to go around. What little that is put aside for the farm (same account but kept seperate in the computer)at least I can fall back on. H really isn't spending any money now except for his living expenses. Well beer and cigs, but would be doing that anyway.
Don't have any joint credit cards. Got rid of them a long time ago. Have opened one on my own. Savings is gone. Some used for bills some stashed (from H) in case of emergency. Never in our 25 yrs have I ever hid anything from him. But in the beginning he scared me so bad as to what he might do, I had no choice. I have done alot of stupid things during this ride but I have still made sure I've taken care of the things that will protect D's and me. Have to.
Thanks for the suggestions though.
M41 H42 D17 Adopted N14 M22 T24 "Bomb" 4/07 Sep 8/07 Admitted OW 11/07(only to me) OW back 12/4/07 PA on off thru 7/08 says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08 D final 7/09 Moving on and up!!