Suzy, my exH is living in the house his wife once shared w/ her exH. Before that, they lived in "her" apartment. I am thinking that he is probably more dependent on her than she is on him, at least financially. I used to wonder how that makes him feel as a man.
I hang up on him when he has his fits too. Then he feels bad about it and does something around the house. Then few more days and i get YOU BETTER........... blah blah whatever ordering around he feels he is entitled to. But now it is click or delete.
Well at least your X does things around the house. Mine has not lifted a finger since he moved out.....but he is quick to tell me if he thinks something isn't right. And he has also not paid a dime towards any of the repairs or improvements. Yep, he really is a winner.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Suzy, my exH is living in the house his wife once shared w/ her exH. Before that, they lived in "her" apartment. I am thinking that he is probably more dependent on her than she is on him, at least financially. I used to wonder how that makes him feel as a man.
Yep, my X is living in the house his new wife got in her divorce settlement. And he was always a man who had serious ego issues, so I wonder how he feels being dependent as well. But I am sure she is somewhat dependent on him financially as well, because in this state when you get remarried you stop getting spousal support from the X, so she gave up her spousal support when she married my X and I am sure she can't pay her bills on her own, so now she is stuck with him. LOL I think she made a bad business decision!!!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Suzy, usually in NC,you lose the spousal support once you remarry, too. However, somehow I was fortunate enough that I was able to keep receiving spousal for 2 years, post negotiations, whether I remarried or not. I will stop receiving mine just before Bill moves to NC.
Suzy, usually in NC,you lose the spousal support once you remarry, too. However, somehow I was fortunate enough that I was able to keep receiving spousal for 2 years, post negotiations, whether I remarried or not. I will stop receiving mine just before Bill moves to NC.
I will get lifetime spousal support unless I remarry or live with a man for more than a year. I know that is a bone of contention with X, but he makes over twice what I make and without it I wouldn't be able to maintain a good home for the kids. The last time he went off on a rant about it I reminded him that his attorney advised him to sign it so he needed to discuss it with her or get over it!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
My biggest issue w/ my exH right now is that he is refusing to follow through on some of the arrangements that were agreed upon during mediation. We were NOT in the same room when this mediation took place...he was in a room w/ his lawyer, I was in a room w/ mine, and the mediator went back and forth between the two of us. We both signed the agreement, in the company of our lawyers and the mediator. Our lawyers and the mediator signed the agreement and it was signed by the judge.
For some reason, he seems to think he is above the law and does not have to fulfill his obligations.
Well, he was supposed to pay off a debt. He didn't. The company has filed a suit against both of us. I managed to pay "my" half of the debt and got the suit dropped against me. Now, I have to get my half of the debt back from him since he was supposed to have paid it all. That means going to court, anyway.
He was also supposed to sign a Quick Deed giving me possession of the house. In turn, I am supposed to re-finance the house. He is refusing to sign the deed, now. And, I cannot refinance w/out it. Again, back to court.
That sucks. If you have to take him back to court make sure you get attorney's fees since you are only going there because HE won't stick to the agreement!!!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Oh, most definitely! That is what everyone else has told me, too! In talking w/ my lawyer in the past over these same issues, he has told me that he will be seeking lawyer fees from ex. I will make sure that he does.
