When my daughter learned that she was on homecoming court she called and asked her grandfather (my father) to walk during the ceremony along with her dad at the ceremony. After she called her grandfather she asked me if I thought that it would cause a problem with her dad. I told her that it was her night and no one elses, she needed to do what pleased her. I told her that I knew both men are very special to her and she shouldn't worry what her dad thought. I told her I also knew it would mean the world to her grandfather. She will not be the only girl being walked by two escorts. Typically, the girls are walked by their dads and brothers or grandfathers. I'm not sure if H would know this though.
My father lives about 4 hours away from us. My H and he have not seen or talked to each other in the two years that we have been separated. My DD said that when she told her dad that her grandfather would also be escorting her, he looked away and didn't say much more after that. My father is a very kind family oriented man. I'm guessing that my H is dreading facing him because of all of the pain he has caused me and the girls. They will be in very close proximity for at least 30 minutes or more. It's sad that my daughter has to worry about this. I am glad though that she did what she wanted to do.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon